I may be rushing things.

Today I went back to work. ( I am a nurse) all this was in an 8hr shift:-
I had a terrible shift.
One elderly lady died on me. And whilst it was expected, and it was a calm, peaceful passing with her family present, I found helping another family through the initial hours of their grief hard.
I had a very unwell man whom was having 3 units of blood plus other stuff.
I had one poor confused gentleman who kept trying to climb out of bed. he was too ill to stand and i was worried he would fall and hurt himself.
As well as 4 other patients requiring more care than i had time to give them.
Whilst also expecting a patient from theatre whose family were in the waiting room. she ended up going to a different ward and I wasn't told so her family endured hours of unnecessary worry waiting for her to return from theatre ( this i feel terrible about)
it was one of those shifts where as a nurse i feel i could have done more for my patients and i hate that feeling.
I'm unsure if I'm ready to return to work. I'm a bit of a mess. but we will see what tomorrow brings.

bumpy road

Today I summoned up the courage to take Munchkin to her swimming lesson. it is a magnet for pregnant women and tiny babies sleeping in prams. It reminds me of just how much i want a large family, and makes me miss my angels intensely. But i managed to hold it together for the 1/2 hour lesson. even if only to come to pieces in the car. travelling this road that Grief has laid out for me is like trying to go 4 wheel driving in my tiny barina. the road is rough and the bumps feel like mountains.

Today i am doing my best, and praying that it is enough.
I am trying to maintain routine for Munchkin. we ventured to the park down the street this morning. The short walk was good. But as soon as we got to the park (there was mums and kids and laughter. )I felt like a Vampire in the sun my body was screaming at me to go home and find a dark corner to hide in. But we stayed for a little bit so Munchkin could swing on the swings and go down the slide.
I pray that it is enough.

what to do with hurtful comments?

It is comments like these that make me not tell people I'm pregnant till after 12 weeks.
A friend of mine whose hubby is also in the defence force called out of the blue. she has had trouble with fertility. Tried for 3 yrs for her first who is an IVF baby. and is pregnant with her second who she had two near miscarriages with. I know she saw the same doctor that i have just been referred to so i asked her if she was any good. she got suspicious ( thinking i was pregnant and hadn't told her.) So i said i had just miscarried again( she knew about the first one). she said " life happens and you've got to stop being blue about it". hurtful comments like these are why women don't talk openly about miscarriage. My angel babies were wanted and are very much loved. I will always miss them.

Words for my Angels in Heaven

There are so many things that i wanted for you
I wanted to dress you in outfits of pink or blue
and give you a name that is special, just for you.
I wanted to sing to you sweetly as you fall asleep
and count the freckles upon your cheeks.
I wanted to watch you grow up big and tall
and kiss it all better when you fall.
I didn't want you to be gone so soon
I already love you up to the moon
I pray that you are safe and felt no pain
and that one day we will meet in a place filled with Sunshine, not rain.

So precious babes, please know this to be true Mummy really, really loves you.

I am up. ( if you call getting up moving from the bed to the couch) and munchkin has food in her belly. Today I think that's enough. mind you she is outside with no clothes on cause I don't have the energy to dress her and put a nappy on her ( she thinks its fantastic).
I need to get out of this hole. I have work on Saturday.

I feel like @#!$ today. Its 7:30 in the morning and I haven't had much sleep. I can hear Munchkin is awake in her cot. but i just don't have the energy to go and get her and start the day. I'm such a terrible mum right now.

I am finding things hard today. I thought i had some idea of what i was in for, thought i had been through it before and would recognise the feelings. I am wrong. Last time i cried enough to break the drought. And i thought i knew what the pits of despair were. this time I am crying very little ( in comparison) but i feel worse within myself. I am completely unmotivated, have spent most of the day on the couch watching terrible TV. and i have a hideous hollow feeling inside me. and sleep even with sleeping pills is impossible.
I just don't know what to do.

I hate this!

I have just finished cancelling my 12 week scan and appointments with the midwives.
this just sucks. I am so devastated

Feeling isolated

I was thinking in the wee small hours of the morning how my husband is handling this better than me and seemed to last time as well. I was actually feeling a tad jealous. Until i read a blog this morning that said something like there is an unwritten rule in marriages that says that both people can't fall apart at the same time. Whoever perceives themselves to be the least sad swallows their grief to keep dinner on the table etc. This can leave the other member feeling a tad isolated and confused. How true. My hubby is being strong for me and he was last time too. I love him so much and hope he realises it.

I went back to my Doctor this morning, turns out I have an infection in my uterus. no wonder i have been feeling so physically crap as well as an emotional train wreck. Fingers crossed the antibiotics work quick.

Why me?

There is supposed to be only a five percent chance of miscarriage if you get to see the heart beating. I saw my little baby's heartbeat. but it was one of those 5 percent. they say your chances of 2 miscarriages is 1 in 25. and it was me. my Dr says the chances of 3 miscarriages is 1 in 250 i hope that isn't me. But in reading so many blogs it is so many women. I am in the pits of despair, it is 1am and sleep is impossible. I am constantly thinking about everything I've done in the last 3 months and if it could have hurt my baby.
This was not meant to happen again. It is shaking my faith to the core. My hubby is atheist and the world seems so much easier through his eyes at the moment. I hope i don't loose my faith it used to bring me much comfort.

Mark 11:24 Therefore I say to you whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.

my problem with this is i prayed, I believed, i saw my baby's heartbeat and i was so greatful and then it was taken from me. And now i am so angry and broken.

Today is a bad day. My hair is starting to fall out, my breasts are leaking milk, i have pain in my belly and i don't have my baby. I know all these are from the sudden change in hormones from being pregnant to not pregnant. Its worth it when you have a baby in your arms. It is just so devastating when you don't.

My body is once again empty and my heart is breaking yet again.
I was on the emergency operations list but right down the bottom so i had to wait 6 hrs by myself in the hospital before they did the surgery. I was a complete mess. they called a social worker for me to talk to. She was nice and understanding, helped me pass 30 mins of time. but ultimately didn't help me feel any better. to make it worse they were doing Cesarean sections that day and every hour or so i could hear the cries of a brand new baby. and i was wishing i was those women and not me. This time i saw the heartbeat and my perfect baby. I prayed so hard for it's life and still it was taken from me.

I am booked in to have a D&C tomorrow. I don't like the idea of having surgery but I don't want to risk another big bleed like last time. The idea of my baby being mushed up and sucked out is causing me much heartache especially as this time i have seen it. Life is so unfair at the moment.

Lightening Has struck twice :(

Today i am devastated. I had some spotting this morning and went to the doctors, They ordered an ultrasound and my baby no longer has a heartbeat :(. It had not grown since my last ultrasound at 8 weeks. everything looked the same just no heartbeat. I feel Devastated, Cheated and oh so angry.

Slightly anxious

Today I am 10 weeks pregnant..... I was 11 weeks when I lost my Angel.
I am feeling really scared and anxious about the coming weeks. I pray every day that History won't repeat itself.

My first scan at 6 weeks, that tiny circle is my baby.

My second scan at 8 weeks 3 days what a difference 2 weeks makes! it still looks like a fish, but you can make out the head and it has a heart beat of 130bpm!!

lots has happened since my last post. Christmas, new year and my Angel's due date has passed. I am grateful that we were on holidays visiting family for all of it. or i think i would have retreated to my bed for 2 weeks. Christmas was nice Munchkin could open presents by herself and was very excited by the day. we were in QLD for new year it rained but it at least gave me an excuse to go to bed early i really didn't want to watch fireworks ( bright happy festive things) not my mood at all. My Angel's due date was spent in the car on the way home. i felt completely numb. not even capable of tears. A very small part of me is relived that it has passed i should no longer be pregnant with my Angel and i might have a small chance at processing it now. i am refraining form using the term 'moving on' as i don't like it thing are different and always will be. I pray one day it won't hurt so much.
But I do have some good news i had my repeat ultra sound today and i am pleased to tell you all that there is a 16mm long tiny bub in my belly with a heart beat of 130 beats per minute :) please pray with me that this little bub grows big and strong. I am still fearful as i lost my Angel at11 weeks.