what to do with hurtful comments?

It is comments like these that make me not tell people I'm pregnant till after 12 weeks.
A friend of mine whose hubby is also in the defence force called out of the blue. she has had trouble with fertility. Tried for 3 yrs for her first who is an IVF baby. and is pregnant with her second who she had two near miscarriages with. I know she saw the same doctor that i have just been referred to so i asked her if she was any good. she got suspicious ( thinking i was pregnant and hadn't told her.) So i said i had just miscarried again( she knew about the first one). she said " life happens and you've got to stop being blue about it". hurtful comments like these are why women don't talk openly about miscarriage. My angel babies were wanted and are very much loved. I will always miss them.

talking

I was chatting to a friend about how i am feeling. I thought she was someone i could sound to.
It turns out she thinks that that amount of time has passed and i should be OK. Sympathy is gone, and science has replaced it. but my grief for my angel is still so raw. instead of being 37 weeks pregnant i am 5 1/2 weeks pregnant. and feeling rather isolated.